When my boyfriend and I tried to have sex for the first time he couldn't penetrate me even though he was fully erect. I have not had sex before but he has. How could this have happened and how do I overcome it as all sorts of silly ideas are going round in my head! Your hymen is probably still intact, and your boyfriend may be finding that a little difficult to penetrate.
One solid bit of relationship guidance is "The Campsite Rule. You know, like when you're actually camping. AKA, don't be an asshole and leave your garbage everywhere. If you really want to show them the time of their life, put your knees on either side and assume the straddle position. Use your hand to rub your vulva and control your thrusts. He gets a sensual overload — the visual of you doing your thing on top, the new sensation of being inside you, the general OMG-I-am-having-sex. Bonus: he gets highly useful lessons on exactly how you like to be touched.
26 Things to Know About Pain and Pleasure During Your First Time
Some people say that it hurts, while others report no pain at all. For many, it refers to penetrative vaginal sex. Penetrative vaginal sex can hurt for many reasons, not just due to the loss of virginity.
Most people feel nervous about their first time. Common fears include whether it will hurt, if the woman will bleed, if sex will change things and whether you'll get it right. If you're relaxed, happy and secure with your partner, you're more likely to enjoy it. Being able to communicate, share your fears and concerns and set boundaries I'll have sex but only if you use contraception will all help make sex better.