If both partners agree, is anything taboo? What about the use of vibrators? Is oral sex okay? These are just a few questions that Christian women asked about the sexual relationship in marriage from a survey that the authors conducted. But at the heart of each of these questions were two concerns: What does God prohibit in the sexual relationship between a husband and wife, and what does God permit?
Can a married couple have oral sex? Is it a sin to have oral sex? Is oral sex permissible according to the Bible? As a biblical counselor who often talks with couples who are preparing for marriage, have just been married, or are struggling in marriage, oral sex is a common topic. Similar to anal sex, Christians over time have handled this issue in various ways. For the sake of this article, when discussing oral sex, I exclusively refer to oral sex between a husband and wife as a married couple; all other oral sex is sinful.
Is oral sex a sin in marriage? What about oral sex before marriage? Oral sex can be a beautiful and pleasurable way to bring more intimacy, pleasure, and connection within your marriage.
Oral stimulation can be part of a moral, healthy and loving sexuality within marriage. As my general article about Christian sex discusses, there are some basic Catholic guidelines for sex within marriage. They help us understand and live the Christian call to holiness in married life. This last point is especially critical when talking about Christian oral sex.