By Tracey Cox for MailOnline. The most popular and biggest free website, Fab Swingers, claims , people use the site daily to find other swingers to connect with. Why so popular? Which is why nearly all swingers these days meet at clubs or through websites. It can and does lead to split-ups. On the other hand, at least a million of you out there are indulging, with lots saying it strengthened their relationship rather than ruined it.

Swinging , sometimes called wife swapping , husband swapping or partner swapping , is a sexual activity in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship sexually engage with others for recreational purposes. People may choose a swinging lifestyle for a variety of reasons. Many cite an increased quality and quantity of sex. Some people may engage in swinging to add variety into their otherwise conventional sex lives or due to their curiosity.

So, you finally realized everything you knew about being a swinger was a complete lie. Or maybe not. We asked a group of swingers what those "things" are, and this is what they told us. Multiply that by, like, infinity plus one. Or via an Internet chat room?

I assured him I was not. He had questions. Then I had questions. Ultimately, it created space for us to have an open dialogue about how we envisioned the future of our sexual relationship. This might include inviting in a third party for a threesome, as my boyfriend and I have discussed, or attending sex-positive clubs or parties, even if just to watch.